I’m my own therapist
Whenever I get that hot panic. That existential nightmare starts creepin’ a fever up your neck. Oh god. Shit’s all wrong.. for whatever reason. With me it’s usually always a relationship that isn’t going my way.
Suffering comes in all shades & sizes. We all have something that keeps us awake, keeps our appetite slim to none, keeps us second-guess ourselves. It’s natural. It’s how our mind “WORKS”.
But is that really “Working” out for you??
The key component of your mind is that you should NOT trust it. It’s broken. It’s reactionary. You don’t need it. And MOST IMPORTANTLY.. YOU ARE NOT YOUR MIND.
It’s really just therapeutic to write these words down. Because once you can repeat this idea to yourself.. you begin to internalize the nature of being.
I do about everything I can to make the superfluous nonsense of my mind fall away. To allow you a scope into my own head. It’s usually just railing on about loneliness, failure, & maybe even more about success. Being successful is somewhat frightening.
But as with all Fear, there’s a simple reframing job there. Know that your fear of something is a perfect indicator of the direction where your path lies. Fear is excitement lying dormant. Ready to be wildly freakin’ in a GOOD way.
Lose the ego, lose yourself. You don’t need to CARE so much.
People who like to think they have the “Blues” all the time. That’s so much bullshit. It’s just an excuse to mope around & be sad. I mean, I get it. I used to do that too. And it took a long time to find my path. At least momentarily, I’m on it. I’m scrappin’ my knuckles & holding on with all the heart of a lion.
Sure you need people in your life. Just keep moving. Keep showing up. You’ll find your people. Show up in different places. Keep moving.
In most things in life, they always say it’s who ya know. I think that simply applies to how people approach relationships. This is another key. Nobody does anything completely by themselves isolated.
We need other people in the world to help. Whether that means that they are physically collaborating.. or whether that means they talk to us on the phone for a few minutes everyday just to keep us sane.
Now. The title of this article says I’m my OWN Therapist. Which means that I have the tools & knowledge to identify my own suffering of my own mind. Sometimes the solution is to talk to someone else. But most of the time I’ve been realizing that the root to most of my own stagnation & turmoil is DESIRE.
It seems to be a common pitfall amongst most folks through out history. Wanting something is also usually the surest way to make sure you don’t get that thing, love, etc. you name it.
The game of love. Be cool. Don’t go overboard. Know that you have cards to play with people. Know that life is just a hilarious bit of fun. None of those cards should be played with real expectation behind them. That’s where disappointment comes from. What are you doing right now? Are you being serious?? That’s dumb. Loosen up.
It’s not about GETTING the woman. You’d prolly be better off if you lost her anyway. It’s about having fun & being stupid together. If you can figure out that part then the woman might actually try to get you. That’s when your REAL headaches start. hahahaha!
I joke. The whole thing, it’s so ridiculous. But it seems really REAL, and we get ourselves all wrapped up in it. Our mind goes off the rails & is afraid of dieing alone. But most folks are cool & really just want to help you.
